Had He Been Honest About the ALCOHOL From The First Date ...
I met and fell in love with this great guy that I used to know from school. On our very first date we talked about DEAL BREAKERS, as I told him I was married to a DRUNK and will not have that again in my life. As I didn't mind social occasions, he stated that he rarely ever drank.
With that as my only DEAL BREAKER we started dating and never spent time apart, things were great to say the least, and I saw myself spending the rest of my life with this guy. But as time moved on I started realizing something was going on. He was drinking everyday and looked like he was trying to hide it.
Though after spending years of smelling the booze from the ex-husband it wasn't hard to spot. So we had a talk and I asked him why he lied to me as this was the ONE thing that I could not deal with. He answered with I'm sorry you misled me as I didn't know you didn't want someone who NEVER drank.
Well he said he loves to drink but will slow down and that didn't bother him. Well yup for 3 days he didn't drink as far as I could tell and after that he didn't hide it as much and drank everyday. He drinks a 5th a day of something hard.
He does not get mean but for a NON drinker would like to have a talk or be intimate with something other than a DRUNK. Now had he been HONEST from day one we would not be in this situation, now Im forced with this question - do I walk away because from what I can see an alcoholic will not chose love over his bottle and that is VERY sad but I know what his choice will be.
I go to bed every night with this man and listen to him snore and stink up my room with some foul smell booze. The only time I seem to be anything to him is in the morning when he is sober. This is the most lonely life I have ever had.
He doesn't realize or care that this is effecting me and how I feel about him. I think I've decided to walk away because I won't be happy like this and the loneliness is worse then being alone. Maybe he will miss me enough to realize what he is doing to our relationship but I doubt it. Sad stuff ...
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