What is Meth?
I have been married for 21 years and have 4 beautiful children with my high school sweetheart. After months of weird behavior he finally admitted to being hooked on meth to my parents.
He was hallucinating. Since he left 2 months ago I have found where he had video and audio cameras hooked up all over the house. He has accused me of sleeping with everyone in town including my best friend (a girl).
He has told people the reason he left is because I was having 3 ways. After ripping mine and the kids world apart he was gone and serving me with divorce papers.
He has completely taken off and hasn't seen or helped with the kids. He has left 21 years worth of debt with me. This all happend within in a matter of a couple of months. I have been in complete shock since then.
What happened? what did I do wrong? Why can't he see we love him? Oh goodness, please somebody help me!
You need to understand that this isn't about you or the kids. You did nothing wrong. It's his addiction that has brought out this side of him.
Addiction is a totally irrational and unpredictable illness. Your husband's meth addiction is no doubt all consuming where the no 1 priority in his life is now the drugs.
That's what an addiction to a drug like meth does - his life now revolves around getting high to the exclusion of almost everything else. Don't try make sense of it - you can't.
You don't want to hear this ... but him asking for a divorce is actually a blessing. Because if he stayed around your life would become a living hell, infinitely worse than you could imagine now. And your kids would come out the worst if they were regularly being exposed to your husband and the insanity that accompanies being hooked on meth.
Right now you need to surround yourself with people who can support you especially groups like Nar-Anon, which is for family members and loved ones of drug addicts. Having people in similar situations to yours providing you with support will make a world of difference.
Just take it one day at a time, and as impossible as it is to believe right now, know that with time things will get easier. And by surrounding yourself with the right people, will help give you the strength to get through those days that are especially tough. God Bless and Take Care
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