My Son is a Drug Addict. We've Done All We Can To Help. What's Left?
My drug addicted son has lost his whole family - wife and kids. He has no job, been to jail (probably going back), or is going to take his life - if someone else doesn't.
We have had him in two rehabs - one said he's not an addict and the other send him home with a script with vicodin. We have just kicked him out for the 2nd time in front of his 8 year-old daughter because he couldn't go by two rules - no confrontations and don't come in high.
We are at our end. He is 29, what else is there to do besides worry about where he will sleep now and whether we'll get a call that it's over?
Unfortunately once you've done everything you can to try and facilitate your son getting help and turning his life around from drug addiction - eventually you have to let go and make peace with the fact that unless he wants it for himself and is prepared to work hard at achieving it, there is nothing further you can do.
Drug addicts have to want to change - because unless they do, they won't be prepared to put in the work entailed that living a life of recovery from addiction
entails. Because there are no short-cuts and quick-fixes.
Those that recover do so because they've made the commitment to change and put in the effort to do so - and those that don't continue the insanity that accompanies a life of addiction, often paying the ultimate prices, i.e. with their lives.
And you can't control which way it will go for your son. It's up to him. So somehow you need to make peace with the fact that things will turn out for your son as they're meant to and that it's up to him if he's ever going to beat his addiction.