My Sister-in-Law Drives Drunk With The Children in the Car
This week I attended my nephew's ball game. I didn't see his mother there so I stayed to see if he needed a ride. Then I saw his mother, red-faced, slurred speech, staggering drunk.
I insisted that I drive them both home but she said she would drive them and another child. I convinced the children to come with me and she drove alone. Now what do I do?
I want to confront her about the incident when she is sober. What do I say? How can I protect my nephews? I have already told the older one that I am ALWAYS available to come and get them.
Simply be brutally honest with her - that she's endangering the lives of her children (and other road users) by driving drunk like that, and how would she feel if anything happened?
There is just no justifiable reason or excuse for that kind of behavior. Does her husband know? Because he should - and someone should tell him. And if you ever see that happening again, call the police instantly so she can get arrested.
You simply have to be confront her and make it clear to her how unacceptable her behavior is. And if she isn't prepared to listen or take you seriously, involve other family members to also talk to her.
Driving drunk is one of the worst things you can do, because you're not only endangering yourself, but others too. But doing so with kids in the car, makes it even 10X worse.
So do whatever you have to to get your point across to her, and get whoever else involved necessary (including the authorities), should she not want to change her behavior or doesn't take you seriously. She also clearly has an alcohol problem and so needs help desperately, so get the family involved to help co-ordinate that.
All the Best