My Husband's Alcoholism Has Destroyed our Marriage
Hi there. I've been married for 13 yrs now and my husband as always battled with drink. In February last year he was admitted to hospital and he was diagnosed with chronic pancreatas.
He dramatically lost weight (down to 7 stone/approx 45kg's) and I thought he was going to die because he was so sick. It made me ill with stress and worry.
He was given medication to keep him off the alcohol but he's been slipping back to drink - and when I know he's been drinking and confront him - he denies it. It started me thinking I'm going crazy ... and even though he's never been physically violent to me or my daughters ... it's the verbal and stupidness of his drinking we hate.
He's started gaining weight but had a drink the other day, which he denies doing, and it caused an argument between him and his brother and sister-in-law. They have washed there hands of him.
Im at the end of my tether now and had enough. I can't watch this any more. I've asked him to leave but he's stubborn ... it's the lying I can't stand and it's driving me round the bend. My daughters are 25 and 20 now and tell me it's time to get shut of him.
I don't love him any more but I do care what's going to happen to him. I'm scared for him - but my health and sanity has got to come first. I don't get it and never will!
I think alcoholics are very selfish. I just don't know what to do any more because it's a very hard illness to fight. I think I could even cope better if it was an affair with a woman - but when drink is the other woman you have no chance of winning. Well that's how I feel ...