My Husband is an Alcoholic and I Want to Get a Divorce....
I've been married 18 years already and have been putting up with my alcoholic husband. It has reached a point were I cannot stand it anymore. I'm tired of his insults and his aggressiveness.
I have three children that say if I get a divorce they will stay with me. However the house is under my husband's name. He says that I can leave but that he keeps the house. I don't have anywhere to go and don't have money. That is the only reason why I'm still with him.
I want to know if it's possible for me to keep the house? He has another property under his name and three vehicles with his name as well. I want to keep the house but don't know if it's possible? I thank you for your advice.
It takes courage to make the decision to move on - and so if you feel divorcing your alcoholic husband will be best for you and the children, your decision should be applauded.
But don't let fear of the unknown hold you back. Trust that in the long-run everything will work out for the best. We can't answer your question about whether you can keep the house etc. You need to get yourself a good divorce lawyer and get the right advice. I'm sure you'll find that you won't be left with nothing if you did and that you will be entitled to a certain share of the assets.
However you shouldn't be basing your decision purely on whether you'll manage financially if you did leave. The well-being and happiness of you and your children should be your primary consideration. And sometimes you have to take a leap of faith when doing what you know is right in the long-run, even if you're not sure how things will turn out, because when you do things tend to work out for the best.
So get yourself a lawyer to begin with and take it from there. I'm sure you'll find that you can't be left with nothing if you do. I know it's scary, but doors will open for you if you face your fears and do what is best for you and your kids.
Best of Luck