My Girlfriend is Addicted to Crack Cocaine. How Do I Deal With It?
My girlfriend is addicted to crack cocaine. I love her so much that every time she relapses it makes me want to leave her. Past relationships always involved guys who use drugs and wind up hurting her.
As for me I don't use drugs or drink. We moved in together and I thought that with me it would be easy for her - I don't party and I have a good job and am very big hearted. I sometimes feel that she tries to play me.
I know there is good in her - trying to get it out. This is the first girl I've met with this problem but I can't bring myself to leave her. My friends tell me I should leave her - they say 'she will never love you and she is to cold hearted.' I'm so confused can you please give me some advice?
You can't change or fix your girlfriend - only she can overcome her addiction to crack cocaine. But what you can do is encourage her to get professional help for her drug addiction by ideally going through a proper drug treatment
program like found at rehab.
Whether or not she is open or willing to change, no one can say. Many addicts live in denial about their addiction and so aren't prepared to do something about their problem and get proper help. But you can at least try and see what happens.
However if nothing does change, then eventually you have to decide if this is the kind of relationship you want going forward. Because we can't force others to change - so if a relationship isn't giving us what we need, then we have to reconsider if its worth continuing with.
Hopefully your girlfriend is ready to get help and do something about her addiction. But don't feel its your responsibility to fix her - only she can ultimately do it for herself.