My Daughter Drug Addiction Got Her in Jail: When She Gets Out Should I Let Her Come Home?
We hired an attorney to get all of my daughters drug charges dropped provided she go to rehab ... I asked her if this is what she wanted to do because if she didn't and she just wanted to do her time let me know and I wouldn't bother spending the money.
She got herself kicked out of rehab and put back in jail in 6 days she has been in jail since may 8. Should I let her come back home when she gets out? I really don't want to because I also have a younger child and her life makes ours a living hell.
As her mother, it's a question only you can really answer because you'll know if it will help or hinder her getting and staying clean.
If you do let her come home - put a clear contract in place around what your expectations are and what behaviours she has to abide by if she wants to continue living at home.
Things like her having to stay clean (going through a drug treatment
program if necessary), going to regular NA meetings, finding a job, paying rent, helping around the house etc. And if she breaks the terms of that contract she's out. Maybe put it to her beforehand - is she prepared to enter into such a contract or not? If she's not - no point in coming home in the first place.
Your daughter needs to learn to take responsibility for her life - and if she agrees to taking that responsibility by entering into a contract with you, it will show you her attitude to begin with is at least in the right place. But you'd have to be firm and make it clear of what the exact consequences of her breaking her contract would be - and then be sure to follow through if she did.
But if it's clear your daughter has no real intention of changing and isn't prepared to put in the effort to turn her life around, you'll just be creating the potential for massive conflict and unrest by allowing her home.
So throw the ball back into her court - as her mother you should be able to tell if she's serious?
Best of Luck