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Losing their Daddy

by Katrina

My boyfriend of many years has been addicted to crack. I have enabled him for so long, it's like I am addicted to him and his problems. I think of myself as a strong person but when it comes to him I always think he will change or the drug use will stop.

I have covered so much up and lied for him for so many years. He would be clean for years and go right back into it like he never stopped. We have 2 children together. He is an unbelievable loving Daddy when he is sober. I even think he is the "better" parent sometimes.

Since my daughter was born 9 months ago our lives have been detroyed by his drug use starting again. Now I sit here as a "single mom" due to drugs and wonder if the pain will go away.

I don't know what to say to my 5 year old son. His Daddy told him he had to work for a few weeks while he went to rehab (again). I sit here and pray and hope that I can do everything right and give my children the life they deserve. I am so hurt and confused that I can't even think straight.

I know it is a disease and I have only enabled him, I just don't understand how you could pick drugs over your children. I am also in denial thinking I can do this on my own, I know I need counseling and a good kick in the ass...

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Nov 18, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I understand that sense of denial, and always going back to the drug despite the heavy consequences on our family, father, and everyone. He always seemed determined to get off that drug, but always went back to it like nothing happened. My brother was addicted to crack, and it was only after 1 month of prison did he get off that drug. If your husband has seemingly chosen drugs over his children, you must be tough, and strict on this. Now that i think back, i should have called the police every time my brother became violent due to drugs- but at that time my father had always stopped me. Your case is different, is your husband a violent person?

There is one thing i know for sure. You definitely cannot raise your children in an environment with a drug addict. It is simply too dangerous and will not end in a good. I advice you to separate with him, until he learns to get off this drug habit, and resolves to be a normal person once again. But it is really situational; please, see a councilor. This is serious. Please stay strong

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