I'm On a Rollercoaster: Alcoholic Husband Has Made Me The Bad Guy And Now Wants A Divorce
I have been married for 10 years, my husband recently admitted he was an alcoholic and started AA after we were on a visit to my son to see our newborn grandson. My husband decided he needed to see his old buddy and took off, he missed the flight home because he was in another state drunk.
My son and his wife were so hurt and so was I. My husband got a flight home the next day and that is when he realized his drinking was a problem and our marrage was at risk. He started AA and did great for 28 days, just before he was to get his 30 day chip he wanted me to share a beer with him to prove we were going to be ok. I shared that beer with him.
He continued going to meeting but now attends only 1 a week and decided he can control his drinking and will be happy staying on step 1. Last night he gave me the choice of going to the bar with him or him getting a 6 pack and bringing it home. (I do not drink).
I told him neither was acceptable, he chose to go to the bar. I went to bed and locked the bedroom door because I did not want to see him drunk and he has scared me in the past when he was drunk. When he got home last night and realized I locked the bedroom door he kicked it in. Told me I stepped over the line by locking him out of our bedroom and he will never sleep on a couch.
He said he thought I was his best friend, that I would always have his back, waited at the bar for me hoping that I would come check up on him. He then said because I locked the door and did not support him last night he wants a divorce.
We did not talk this morning but my heart is broken and I am so upset. I read this website last night before I went to bed, I need to talk to someone but had no one to talk to. Please does anyone have any advice for me? Was I wrong not being his drinking buddy last night?
HELP PLEASE, SOMEONE PLEASE!!!!