I'm Depressed and Drinking Too Much. Why Does No One Seem to Care?
I think I need help. I am very depressed . I feel like I’m stuck in a hole because of my drinking - and people just seem to walk by and don’t even care about what I’m going through. I have said for a long time that drink is the only thing that helps me feel just that bit better. I have kids and don’t know what to do. Please help!
You don't go into much detail so it's difficult to give a comprehensive answer, but I'll do my best ...
You say that people don’t care what you’re going through – but do they even know? Have you confided or spoken to anyone about what you’re feeling?
I can relate – because I felt a lot like you do now when I was struggling with alcohol and drugs. To me it was so obvious that there was something wrong with me and that I needed help – so I could never understand why no one else seemed to notice or care enough to reach out.
In hindsight now I realise I was crying out for help, yet I also know now that I should’ve spoken and confided in someone. People around us often don’t realise the extent of our pain and what we’re going through – unless we tell them. I was never comfortable talking about these things – so instead kept it to myself, which just prolonged the agony for me and created a vicious circle where I just felt worse and worse, and got more and more depressed.
Don’t make the same mistake I did. Find someone you trust and confide in them about what you’re going through. I know that may seem hard and takes a huge amount of courage, but I promise you you’ll feel a million times better because suddenly you won’t feel so isolated and alone anymore.
Then I suggest you get hold of an Addictions Counselor in your area – and speak to them about what you’re going through. They can then help you map out a plan to treat and deal with your drinking. Treatment of alcohol abuse and alcoholism usually also involves the treatment of related depression, so it will also help you in that regard.
Just take it one step at a time. Right now things can seem pretty daunting so focus on the next step. The first one being to confide in someone and the next to speak to a professional like an Addictions Counelor or Therapist.
You need to take the initiative. As scary as it may seem, don’t wait. You can turn your life around. One small step at a time. Please come back with more questions if you want to and look through the depression and alcoholism
area for suggestions that may also help.
Don't give up!