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How To Kick Your 22 Year Old Son Out Of The House Because of His Black-Out Drinking For Weeks At a Time?

My son drinks to get fully loaded and to pass out. He does this for 4-5 days and then takes a break and detoxes at a hospital. He then stays sober for a month or two and the circus begins again. WE have been going around with this for 3 years now.

He has been to 5 inpatient 30 day rehabs and has detoxed a dozen times. He always starts drinking again. This started with a heroin addiction when he was 18. HE uses suboxone abd camphral regularly, but something clicks in his mind and he decides to drink.

This past week, our family took a week off camping. He stayed home to watch the dogs and work. He worked 2 days and then got drunk and stayed drunk for the whole week. He checked himself into another detox the day we were to get home. Answer

You simply have to talk to your son like an adult and give him the choice. 'Clean up your act and start behaving more responsibly - or you can no longer live at home.' Make it clear to him that you love him and if he's serious about getting sober and turning his life around you'll support him, but that the current insanity can no longer continue, at least not while he's living at home.

Your son needs to learn that he's old enough to be responsible for the choices he makes - and that if he continues making bad one's, and wants to continue with his excessive binge drinking and out of control behaviour - he can do that, no one can stop him. But that those choices come with consequences - and those start with him no longer being able to live at home and drag the rest of his family down his self-destructive path.

So it's about trying to take the emotion out of it when you talk to your son, and doing it in a very adult-like and mature fashion. Doing it that way will also have far more impact because he's probably used to you getting upset and angry with him.

And then it's a matter of being prepared to follow through. If he doesn't agree to making the changes he needs to, or at the first sign of not holding to his end of the bargain if he promises to change but fails to do so - then you have to kick him out. That will teach him to start becoming accountable for his actions and hopefully take the idea of recovery more seriously.

But there are never any guarantees on how things will turn out. But you give your son the best possible chance of turning his life around by making him learn from his mistakes and understanding the concept of personal responsibility. Because until he gets those, he's unlikely to ever be sufficiently motivated to take the process of change seriously.

Good Luck

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