Finding Happiness After Separating from Alcoholic/Abusive Husband
by Karen Brown
I just wanted to share with anyone who is feeling the despair and hopelessness of living with a significant other that is addicted to drug or alcohol that there is happiness out there for you.
Six months ago, I finally convinced my alcoholic husband to leave our home. We have been married over 18 years and have 4 beautiful children. He is a closet drinker who became verbally violent with me and my oldest daughter and son regularly. I did not want to leave the house, I had no where to go with kids and I have farm animals.
After three solid days of telling the husband that I wanted him away from my kids and that I wanted a divorce, he left. The minutes and days after he left, I can not tell you the elation and peacefulness my children and I have found. Yes, the financial part is always the most frightening but the soon to be EX husband is paying most of the bills.
I know this is not possible for most people so therefore, people tend to stay longer in the relationship. But I have found a job and have also found some respect. I have come to realize that my part in his addiction was letting him stay in our family for so long.
The Ex is still drinking and wants back in the family. This will never happen because I do not love him any longer and he will never change.
I am going to continue to work on healing my children and myself and NOT get involved with the Ex's problems any longer. He is an adult and needs to get his own help and find his own way, no longer at my and the children's expense.
I have also realized something that is very important to people who are afraid of being alone. When you are in a relationship with an addict, you are alone and only feel despair. When you get out of this toxic relationship, you may be alone BUT you are happy and find hope in each day.
Hang on to the thought that you will find peace and happiness in the future.