26 Year Old Son Addicted to Weed Can't Control His Temper
I have a 26 year old son living with me, he is badly addicted to weed. He had to come back when work stopped and he could not afford his rented place. Most of his life he has been hard work. Having my home damaged many times over the years. Violent tempers etc.
Recently he broke his ankle, which has had pins put in place with a plaster cast up to his knee. He is beginning to lose his temper and using his walking sticks to be quite violent. He is also been driving his van although I have asked him not too, he refuses to give me the keys. I have told him his insurance would be null and void. He just ignores me.
I have three boys who were diagnosed with ADHD years ago when they were little and my life has been extremely difficult bringing them up. I am nearly 60 now and coming to the end and am feeling very ill with all this worry and abuse.
This is a long story cut very short. Please can you give me some advice of what to do. Thank you
Your son is old enough to take care of himself and live alone, so maybe its time to throw him out the nest where he can do what he wants to do and smoke as much weed as he wants?
You can't stop or control your son and
his smoking weed. It's interesting that he has a temper and gets violent though because weed usually makes people more chilled and peaceful. But thats neither here nor there.
It's time your son starts looking after himself so tell him he can no longer continue living at home. Because if he wants to continue living at home, he has to live by your rules - and those rules no longer tolerate smoking weed, being stoned, temper tantrums, and any form of violence. Tell him he can do all those things, but just not in your house, and so he needs to find his own place.
And give him a deadline by when he needs to be out, and if he isn't, get the authorities involved to help get him out. You're going to have to be firm and draw a line in the sand saying enough is enough, otherwise nothing will change and your son will just keep walking all over you.
You can't let yourself essentially be bullied any longer. It's terribly sad that your son behaves the way he does and shows you so little respect, but it doesn't mean you have to stand for it. He should be grateful for you having taken him in and looked after him after he lost his work, so he needs to learn that by behaving the way he has, he has shot himself in the foot and only has himself to blame.