I Left My Alcoholic/Addict Husband
I've left my alcoholic husband of 28 years - not because I wanted to but I could not take any more of his behaviour to me and our 3 children.
Every weekend and coming home all hours full of alcohol, I know I made the right decision for us. It's been 1.5 years since I left our home. He is still drinking and most times he doesn't even turn up for his visitation.
He also has been dating a married woman in our family home but she has since gone back to her husband. I was devastated and found this very hard to deal with.
He would never talk about any of the problems we had to anybody. I'm more at peace now and so are the kids, but I still love him and would love for the dream to come true. I've only waited 28 years for nothing ...
You've done the right thing - for your own sake and your kids. Unfortunately alcoholism destroys almost everything in it's path, including relationships, families, state of health, career ... you name it and alcoholism can pretty much destroy it.
So with it being clear your husband was not going to change, leaving him was the best thing you could have done. His alcohol consumes his life and you as a family deserve better than that. No one deserves to be 2nd best in a relationship due to the other persons addiction.
It's important that you really begin to move on with your life now and let go of the past. Use this opportunity to find yourself again and how to make yourself happy. Everything in life happens for a reason - and no matter how bad the setbacks or challenges - it always provides us the opportunity to change for the better.
So don't look back at the last 28 years and everything that went wrong - but look forward at the next 28 years and the opportunity that provides for self-discovery, personal growth and becoming the person you were meant to be.
Best of Luck and Take Care.