How Drugs Ruined My Family

Alcoholism and Drug Addiction Help Header

Home Page
Resources
Advertising
Contact Us

How Drugs Ruined My Family

When I was 18 I met what I thouht was the love of my life. He fell for me hard and me for him. We stayed together for 8 years, have a 3 year old daughter and i'm pregnant with his son.

He's addicted to oxycotin, weed, cocaine and any type of drug thats going to get him high. He's cheated on me. Lied to me. Has not supported me emotionally or financially. He goes out every night with his "friends" who really don't care about him at all. I used to be in love with him but recently realized I loved him for what we had for the first 5 years.

The last 3 have been really hard and the last year and a half almost unbearable but I stuck it out. He always makes me feel like I'm not doing something right. That I'm the one who makes him have these problems. I loved what we had not what our future looks like.

I know he's not going to change and that I have to move on with my life even though I will be alone for awhile I need the time to heal. I know in my head what I need to do. Drugs ruined him. Drugs ruined our family together. I'd rather be alone than support him and his bad habits.

Comments for
How Drugs Ruined My Family

Average Rating

Click here to add your own comments

Feb 02, 2010
Rating

Its okay.
by: Anonymous

I might not be able to realate completely. but I was with this guy for almost 3 years. He had a drug problem. Pills mainly. Hed take them and be pukeing all the time when hed come off of them. Weed. and one time heroine. drinking. He stayed in an establishment for 8 months. It started with just rehab but he would start going crazy so then they sent him to a guys mini jail kinda. I waited for him to get out but he just started it all up again. I eventually got him to go to church. He stopped the drugs for a while but then he started up again. He is still struggling but for about 3 months now he is clean. We are no longer together but we still are close friends. If you dont already have a religion, start now. Im not ordering you to but Our lord can help all people with all things. Its absolutley amazing what he can do. And maybe for right now its not best to be with your guy. It wouldent be healthy for you or the kids. But stay close. And check up on him regularly. and pray. With prayers all things are possible. You and your family will be in my prayers. i hope to see that everything gets better.

Jan 30, 2010
Rating

by: Anonymous

Your life is exaclty mine but my son born first then my daughter. Its been 8 yrs for us also. In some ways some of the addictions are gone or manageable for my boyfriend but he is still very heavily involved in smoking marijuana. And when that is not enough he will abuse alcohol for several weeks in a row. He is very controlling and always has time limits and does not allow me certain human freedoms such as hanging out with friends or me time. I would never be able to go on a girls vacation alone. He tells me the bar is a place people go to find sex, yet he can stop there and the latter is not true for him. I thought it to be just straight mental/emotional abuse but then I realized he was addicted to weed. He will never stop smoking. I don't know what to do I know the problem but I need some answers. I tell myself its not that bad all the time try to hang in there for the kids. We r a family but the kids and I come 2nd when his needs have to be met. Then once he has his stash nice guy. I just want freedom, equality and some love.

Jan 20, 2010
Rating

bigger than me
by: jennifer

i felt like i was reading my own letter except im on year 11. i started dating the love of my like at 16 but im still here praying eveyday that he'll overcome this when he looks into the eyes of his babies. my husband took a 6 year break from drugs and recently decided to live that life again. my children had the perfect daddy for years and now im alone and just cant give up hope. i feel addicted to him....hope it passes soon an i can move up in the world find love again!!!!i comend you GREAT MOMMY

Jan 08, 2010
Rating

to all
by: jobo

you will never be held over again, move on a and find real happiness.

Dec 16, 2009
Rating

Thanks for Sharing
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing your story. I think you're doing the right thing. Addiction is such a selfish thing - and until your partner decides to change, his addiction will be the number 1 thing in his life. Of course this is a tough time for you - but things will in time become easier. Hang in there and stay strong.