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How Drugs Ruined My Family

When I was 18 I met what I thought was the love of my life. He fell for me hard and me for him. We stayed together for 8 years, have a 3 year old daughter and I'm pregnant with his son.

He's addicted to oxycontin, weed, cocaine and any type of drug that's going to get him high. He's cheated on me. Lied to me. Has not supported me emotionally or financially. He goes out every night with his "friends" who really don't care about him at all. I used to be in love with him but recently realized I loved him for what we had for the first 5 years.

The last 3 have been really hard and the last year and a half almost unbearable but I stuck it out. He always makes me feel like I'm not doing something right. That I'm the one who makes him have these problems. I loved what we had not what our future looks like.

I know he's not going to change and that I have to move on with my life even though I will be alone for awhile I need the time to heal. I know in my head what I need to do. Drugs ruined him. Drugs ruined our family together. I'd rather be alone than support him and his bad habits.

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Everything WILL work out.
by: Anonymous

It's okay. Your doing the right thing. Most people would blame themselves when it is NOT their fault. NEVER feel like it is your fault. You didn't cause it. You can't control it. Your family needs you. I know this is a bit harsh on those whose lives have been affected by drugs, but it is true. You have no one, NO ONE but yourself to blame for this. If your feeling depressed, drugs are not the answer. If something tragic has happened in your life, do something little yet special. Have an ice cream, talk to your friends about it, doing these little things WILL eventually cheer you up. If your addiction has been caused by pressure, then well, it's not your fault but you should try and take a stand.

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im ready to change !
by: Anonymous

im 23 years old and have a three year old daughter , my mum helps me alot as i have had problems since i was 14 with drug an alcohol abuse, the sad thing is im intelligent , pretty and come from a good family, but i always end up going back to binge on drugs and alcohol, it was ok before i had my daughter but now i have this huge sense of guilt hanging over me every time i go on a bender, my last bender was yestersday i eneded u taking that meow meow drug, even though i have read counteless articles in the paper about how this stuff can kill , i stayed awake all night for fear that i would die in my sleep , i mean how pathetic and iresponsible is this. i know better. i really do , ive done a three mouth detox and couldnt even keep that up . im living out in the sticks now so i have no acsess to aa or na. i feel so sorry for my little girl and my mum , its time i looked after them , but every so often i fuck it all up again , they need me so badly but i cant seem to get of this merry go round of drugs an drink , please help me someone xxxxx

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by: Anonymous

Drugs ruined my family. My younger siblings and I know longer get along, let alone talk to each other. These are my own flesh and blood and we don't even know each other. They are distant, lost and completely uncapable of trusting and holding an intellectual conversation with.

Its depressing because when we kids, we laughed and cried together, we loved each other. Now, we cannot look at eachother. MY siblings lie and cheat and steal, they are on a route towards self destruction and I feel so alone of the subject when I say drugs ruined my family. For everyone uses drugs...but little do they know the pain they cause those around them...

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heroin ruins lives not just the users life..
by: Anonymous

my partner and i got together when we were 15,he was goin through a bad time with his family and i helped him,we ended up having two boys before we were 19 and getting married at 22 we were together 17yrs,we both worked hard and raised our children together..he was a great dad.. then things started goin horribly wrong,he lost his job,hung around with dole bums. he took heroin, he blames his mates i blame him,he had a choice he made that choice..when things started goin missing from the home he blamed our eldest son, but i knew deep down it was my husband,he finally sort help from a doctor and then told me about his medication..i helped him keep busy and keep away from his old friends..he lasted 6 months untill he went bk on it..i couldnt cope with round 2.i got told that he as to hit rock bottom himself before he would get better..so decided to move him to his mams..he was still intouch with me and the kids and we started getting on alot better,still doin family activities and days out..then 1 day he turned round and told me he had met someone else,another user tryn to get off heroin too, she wanted me out of his life as she couldnt cope with the closeness w had..so i stepped out of the picture and watched how he spent less n less time with his kids untill we never seen him for 6weeks then i got a phone call from the police saying he was locked up for dealing...when he rang me from prison the next day he told me he was lookin at 5 years. we had made lots of plans when the kids were growing up about what we could do when we were just a couple again now thats all gone and now i feel cheated out of a life we could of had, i sit here now 14months on im still working looking after the kids and ive started college, funnily enough psychology and sociology its actually helping me understand other peoples behaviour...he rings every week asking after his kids and me, but il never be able to forgive him for choosing heroin over his family...heroin ruined our family and my life,all i hope is my kids dont go down that road when they get older. ive told the kids the truth about what there dad as turned into..there 15 and 17yr old now, they love there dad but there happy they know where he is, as whilst he's in there he is being looked after.. atleast he isnt on the streets..i was waiting for the phone call they had found him dead thankfully the police saved his life in a weird kind of way...he was dealing drugs to fund him and his girlfriends habit.hes never heard from her since either...in the last 14months 4 of his friends have died because of heroin, and the rest of them are still using..even a death of a friend cant get them off it so what chance as anyone else got at helping them...

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Its okay.
by: Anonymous

I might not be able to realate completely. but I was with this guy for almost 3 years. He had a drug problem. Pills mainly. Hed take them and be pukeing all the time when hed come off of them. Weed. and one time heroine. drinking. He stayed in an establishment for 8 months. It started with just rehab but he would start going crazy so then they sent him to a guys mini jail kinda. I waited for him to get out but he just started it all up again. I eventually got him to go to church. He stopped the drugs for a while but then he started up again. He is still struggling but for about 3 months now he is clean. We are no longer together but we still are close friends. If you dont already have a religion, start now. Im not ordering you to but Our lord can help all people with all things. Its absolutley amazing what he can do. And maybe for right now its not best to be with your guy. It wouldent be healthy for you or the kids. But stay close. And check up on him regularly. and pray. With prayers all things are possible. You and your family will be in my prayers. i hope to see that everything gets better.

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by: Anonymous

Your life is exaclty mine but my son born first then my daughter. Its been 8 yrs for us also. In some ways some of the addictions are gone or manageable for my boyfriend but he is still very heavily involved in smoking marijuana. And when that is not enough he will abuse alcohol for several weeks in a row. He is very controlling and always has time limits and does not allow me certain human freedoms such as hanging out with friends or me time. I would never be able to go on a girls vacation alone. He tells me the bar is a place people go to find sex, yet he can stop there and the latter is not true for him. I thought it to be just straight mental/emotional abuse but then I realized he was addicted to weed. He will never stop smoking. I don't know what to do I know the problem but I need some answers. I tell myself its not that bad all the time try to hang in there for the kids. We r a family but the kids and I come 2nd when his needs have to be met. Then once he has his stash nice guy. I just want freedom, equality and some love.

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bigger than me
by: jennifer

i felt like i was reading my own letter except im on year 11. i started dating the love of my like at 16 but im still here praying eveyday that he'll overcome this when he looks into the eyes of his babies. my husband took a 6 year break from drugs and recently decided to live that life again. my children had the perfect daddy for years and now im alone and just cant give up hope. i feel addicted to him....hope it passes soon an i can move up in the world find love again!!!!i comend you GREAT MOMMY

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to all
by: jobo

you will never be held over again, move on a and find real happiness.

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Thanks for Sharing
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing your story. I think you're doing the right thing. Addiction is such a selfish thing - and until your partner decides to change, his addiction will be the number 1 thing in his life. Of course this is a tough time for you - but things will in time become easier. Hang in there and stay strong.

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