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Hardest Years of My Life and Many To Go

by Chad H
(Danielson, CT, USA)

I hate to start off like so many other addiction stories, but in the basic picture of addiction, they pretty much all revolve around the same starting point.


As so many others, I had everything going for me, I may not have been the smartest kid in High School, but when I took the ASVAB for the military, I scored high enough for special forces, which is what I wanted.

Upon graduation in 1990, within two weeks I was in boot camp, where I exceled to the top of my class. I eventually became a "superstar" through out my military career, earning several medals that you just do not normally get at my rank.

I could not get enough. All my evaluations were 4.0 and was recommended for OCS by my captain and Chief Engineer, which I foolishly turned down, very foolishly. Then I made the biggest mistake of my life, I decided to turn down being an officer as well as renlistment, all for a girl who I as going to marry, then we broke up, six months after I was discharged.

So, I took my GI Bill and went to a Tech school for HVAC/R, where again I exceled to top of my class and graduated in 1st place. Three days after graduation and two days before I was suppose to start the best job the field had to offer, I was in a very serious motorcycle accident, second one in my life.

I suffered serious injury, shattering my collar bone, breaking ribs, but worst injury wouldn't be made known until almost six months later, my lower back. Apparently I herniated some discs in my lower back.

The neurosurgeon even said it was one of the worst cases he has ever seen in his career and this is where my life changed forever. Right there on the spot he asked me what painkillers I wanted, he even said "The candy store is now open".

The problem was, I didn't even know about opiate painkillers or addiction. I was in extreme pain, so I said give me something strong to get me through until I have my surgery, which was scheduled within a week. The drug was oxycodone.

The first one I took, didn't take the pain away, but it did definitely help, until I realized, if I took more than prescribed, the better they worked. Then I experienced euphoria. Wow. The pain was still there, but the feeling was amazing, and you opiate addicts know what I am talking about.

Eventually I had the surgery, but when they opened me up, the damage was so much worse then they had diagnosed (where was House when I needed him, lol). They did the fusion, but it failed because there were so many other problems.

They had to do a "redo" of my first surgery, all the while my need for opiates was growing stronger, to the point I was on Morphine and Percocet fulltime, still knowing nothing of addiction.

Things were different in the early 90's. We didn't have the knowledge of addiction we have now. Years and surgeries went by, ending up with metal rods and screws and diagnosed with Degenerative Disc disease, Failed back syndrome, arthritis, and massive bone spurs, all the while on opiates, by this time, I had tried every opiate under the sun.

I did also try other methods of pain control, everything from accupunture, physical therapy(aqua), Tenz unit, and prayer, nothing worked. My doctor said there was not much else to do except manage the pain with medication and I agreed.

Now I can't get out of bed in the morning without first taking my morphine (300mgs+ a day). All this took place from 1995 until present. I am on full disability (social security) and the VA is my healthcare provider.

I could not work so I could not get private insurance, if I had, treatment may have been different. Anyway, I am going on almost 20 years of being an opiate addict, yes I did alot of bad things during those years to feed the monster of addiction, most I regret.

Right now (took me 20 years), I have a manageable lifestyle with people who care about me and who I love. My mother never gave up on me even after all the awful things I did to her. My sister as well.

At present, I have a very lovely lady and three children in my life, we live together and thankfully she understands what I have been through.

I am still an opiate addict and always will be. I take my prescribed medications exactly like I am supposed to, but the chaos is gone from my life. Mentally, I am extremely depressed, which I am going to see someone about tomorrow.

I may not be 100% clean (still take legally prescribed medication), but I have 100% changed my life. For me, their was no magic secret that got me to change my life, I just woke up one day and decided enough was enough.

I want the chaos, drama, street drugs, loss of money, neglect of my family gone, so I picked up the phone and started making calls to rehabs in the area and after hours, I found one that changed my life forever (wish I could give you the name).

The next day I was inpatient where I learned about myself and what I wanted to do with my life.
My life now: I take my medications as prescribed, which is something I have never done, chaos is gone, street drugs are gone, their will be more money than usual for Xmas this year, bills are paid on time, all my court issues are cleared up.

I still live in alot of pain, but the pain I was experiencing before my change was 10 times worse.
I guess what I am trying (desperately) to say is, for myself and my addiction, nothing magically happened, like alot of people expect.

Also, people once clean, think problems and bad situations will suddenly get better, it does not work that way. Addiction is one of the worst things in life with no cure, only manageability, so for a positive outcome in trying to get and stay clean requires more work than you have ever done in your life.

If being clean is something you want, and believe me, its worth it, be prepared for some rough times ahead and work like you would not believe, but it is more than worth it, if you value your own life or lives of people who love you.

I skipped over alot of "life moments", but I have never written anything before in my life, sorry if this so called story seemed confusing or boring, I just want to help people who are struggling with this awful disease.

Once I practice more writing, I will try to clean this up better. I hope this brought some light to some of the addicts who are unfortunate as I am.
Thank you if actually read this whole thing through. The end.
Written By: Maurice

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Sep 12, 2013
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mission impossible
by: brothers in the shadows

I cannot begin to burst out in anger to those VA (people) who are either unqualified, uninformed, or political......that being said I'm gonna tell ya you haven't seen such an upset Disabled Veteran who mirrors you brother......yes it's me and I tell you what I AM MAD! I am so upset I cannot comprehend my MOTIVATION to fight this little thing sucking all the life out of my soul. I will not waiver. I will fight this constant nagging (thing)going.....TAP...TAP are you there? You need me! Naaaaaa bull crap I will fight this tooth and nail until the cows come home. Bra? You hear me! I will not relent! So the clinics who take Federal Funding dictate, how, who, where, & when you will be there. You will pay CO-Pays, Office Fees, Desk Fees and on and on for that little pill because you have no damn choice. I will not let political agendas dictated my life.
..............so there I stop.................
Get Mad use that energy, embrace it and let it empower you. Say naaaaaaaa find another way. There is an anti-gateway drug out there, study it hard because its the color GREEN! Epiphany? They have awoken a sleeping giant the it's me. No man it's not me it's you! Positive Note: Youtube Moodswings (Stertrek) enjoy and begin your new journey! :)

Dec 03, 2012
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Witten again
by: Chad H

Wrote another one called Dreams, Imagination, color..will lthey ever return?

Nov 26, 2012
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Kudo's, Chad!!
by: Mom

I love you. I am still here. As the years go by, my concept of you and your life's Path has deepened. The Path you have chosen is one of great suffering and great challenge. And you are traveling well, my dearest son. You are a fine man, Chad.

Nov 26, 2012
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Great Share
by: C-P

Inspirational share. As you rightly say there is no quick fix or magic cure. It takes hard work, dedication and lots of commitment. And the road isn't easy. But is it worth it ... hell yeah!! Well done on the road you've travelled and proving to be an inspiration. I'm sure the many who read your story will gain a tremendous amount of strength and courage. Keep doing what you're doing.

Nov 26, 2012
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With you every step of those years
by: Paige

I have watched you struggle all of those 20 years. I have loved you and I have despied you. I have respected you and I have disowned you at times. The one thing I never truly did until now, was understand you. And never have I been so proud to call you my brother. Your integrity and strength is absolutley unmatched in my eyes. Your honesty so humbling. You have grown in so many ways. But most of all, upon reading this, you have inspired me. Inspired me to be a stronger person, a better person, and a person worthy of respect. You are such a person. Spread the word and keep writing. Your words to me are so valubale, I can only imagine what they may be like to an addict. This is your purpose brother, to inspire people. You have already changed my views on life with this one essay alone. I understand better now about your addiction and what you must go through every single day. But you get through it. You get up everyday and face those challenges like the true soldier you will always be. Where you are weak, I am strong and where I am weak, you are strong. Lean on me because I will lean on you always. I love you brother. You are not alone, nor will you ever be. I am here, holding your hand, walking with you every step of those hard years to come. Keep writing!

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