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Jul 02, 2011
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:)
by: Anonymous

THIS IS SO HELPFUL!
THANKYOU SO MUCH!
I hope everything is going alright with you..
Love Hanna. xxx

Feb 25, 2010
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Help Him Get Help
by: C-P

Supporting someone in active addiction is a misnomer, i.e. it can't be done because the only way you're supporting them is by letting them continue to use.

So real support is doing everything in your power to facilitate that person getting clean/sober. That involves establishing the clear boundary that you won't tolerate their drinking/using in your relationship, but that you're willing to be there for them if they agree to turn their life around by getting the necessary help.

The best thing for your boyfriend is for him to overcome his substance abuse problem. But allowing him to feel sorry for himself and give you a million different reasons why he has this problem and continues to use gets him no closer to a solution. I know it sounds like a hard or tough approach, but in reality that's the only approach that works. And I think you know that.

Addicts are brilliant manipulators who will easily get you to 'fear' and feel guilty for them because they know it will allow them to continue using. See it for what it is and take a stand.

Good luck to you.

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