Should I Stop Drinking Because My Husband Has?

by Angie
(MN)

My husband has been sober for just over 2 years. I don't have a drinking problem. I do like to be able to have a couple beers with the girls when we go out (very rarely) but my husband insists that I am a hypocrite and that I shouldn't be drinking to support him.

I do not have any alcohol in the house and I am supporting him but I am just so confused as to why I should have to change everything about myself now because he has a problem?

Answer

Hi Angie

Alcoholism is your husband's addiction and a disease he is entirely responsible for.

So the fact the he expects you to not drink because he can't, is on his part being unreasonable and I think he needs to examine why he feels that.

There are millions of people like yourself who can drink alcohol responsibly and not let it become a problem - so you shouldn't feel any guilt about enjoying yourself occasionally when you're out with your girlfriends.

The fact that you are also supportive by not keeping any alcohol at home and don't seem to drink much in front of your husband means I think you're doing everything you can.

This is your husband's issue and he needs to come to terms with it.

All the best.