My Son is Out of Control Due to His Drug and Alcohol Addiction. What Do I Do?
My son is 19 and for the last seven or eight years life has just been a continuous nightmare. He has periods where he doesn't drink or do drugs for a while, but so far this year: He has been stabbed, stole money frequently including my bank card, stole my car (he doesn't even have a licence), and was beaten half to death (he suffered a fractured skull, 35 stitches to his face, two broken jaws and several broken teeth).
When will he wake up? I received a phone call in the middle of the night last night to inform me that he had been stabbed again. He is horrible when he is drunk or on drugs - he is violent, damages my home, threatens me all the time, my daughter and granddaughter live with me and they are terrified of him. I am too if I tell the truth, he lies constantly.
Firstly you need to make peace with the fact that you are powerless over the choices your son makes, even though they are totally destructive and literally killing him. No one can say when/if he will wake up - you can only hope that one day a switch in his mind goes off that will help him realise what he's doing and motivate him to want to change.
In the meantime you have to do everything in your power to protect the rest of your family. His threatening intimidatory behavior are NOT under any circumstances acceptable, even if they are because of his addiction. So you have to take a tough love approach and kick him out, and not let him inside your home - at least not until he's received help for his addictions and turned his life around.
Do everything you can to get your son professional help in the form of drug and alcoholism addiction treatment
. There must be NHS programs in the UK that deal specifically with addictions and that can help your son.
But ultimately it's up to him and his desire to want to change/turn his life around. And if he's not prepared to do that, realise there is nothing more you can do. You daughter and granddaughter are entitled to a safe environment and if he threatens that, then you need to involve the police/authorities.
Best of Luck and God Bless