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My Homeless, Drug Addicted, Angry Brother that Doesn't want Help!

by Katie
(Michigan)

My brother is 5 yrs. older than I; he will be 35 next month. He has been using drugs/alcohol since he was 15. My family & I have undergone so much pain over the years dealing with him. In my opinion, addiction is the worst disease b/c for some there is no longer any hope for recovery, and we just hope that either a miracle will happen, or worse, it would all just end.


I know that sound so final, but the pain is unbearable! Instead of going through the past 20 yrs of my brothers life, I would like to explain the past 2 years & see if anyone has any advice.

January 2010: Our mother passed away from an "unintentional drug overdose" At the time, my brother was serving an 18 month prison term for theft of prescription drugs. He was in confinement & was not aloud out of prison for the funeral. Heart breaking for him & I.

October 2010: My brother was released from prison, I drove 9 hours to pick him up. I cried when I picked him up but he was stone faced & wouldn't talk to me a/b anything. I helped him get some clothes & took him to the place he was going to spend the night at. Within 3 months of being out of prison, he was arrested for the theft of prescription drugs.

Since his 1st arrest, he has been arrested an additional 3 times. All for theft. He spends 2-30 days in the county jail & then they release him & he goes right back to drugs.

Currently he has been doing Bath Salts, which is currently a legal product to buy in Ohio. (Research it ... it is a horrible drug)

Any how, I am lost & worry constantly about him. I do not enable him at all & I don't even call him. I am worried about him, but I am also worried about myself. I am falling farther and farther into a depression & don't know how to deal with this anymore. I miss our mother & just want & need my "old brother" back. I need his support so that the two of us can grieve.

Any support/suggestions would be helpful. I cannot afford an interventionist or fancy rehab. I have found a couple state run rehabs in OH, but my brother has to pursue the help himself & don't think he is mentally capable of doing that. I really think he is severely mentally ill & that someone else needs to step in, but no one will help.

Thanks for letting me vent, & best of luck to everyone else dealing with a loved one with this horrible illness.

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All Her Life NEW
by: AnonymousInTheDark

Its hard for me to sleep at night because every night my brother sits outside my window and smokes until he passes out. Im writing this as he is sitting there outside my window at 5 am. I have asked him so many times not to do his drugs there but he does it anyway. I decided that I dont care about him and I just want him out of my life. The reason isnt the Pot, but the alcohol. When he drinks he literally drinks until he seems on the verge of death. And while hes conious he is an angry. I live with my single mom him and two sisters, and he has hit every single one of us even my little siter. my mother yells at him often and sometimes she isnt careful about it. Hes beaten her a few times and has even given her a concussion. I remember the day coming home from school to see her in tears on the floor. she cried on my sholder for hours and after that day ive never been able to forgive him. he looks at me and cacks a smile like hes done no wrong and i want to strangle him and beat his head against the wall. the worst part is my mother who has suffered living with addicts her whole life. her parrents and some of her siblings were addicts when she grew up, when she got a husband he became an alcoholic, and she suffered living with him for 17 years because she didnt want he children growing up without a father. in the end he was the one who filed for a divorce. and now ive watched my brother become an addict. she is constantly enabling him. paying his bail, buying him new cars that he totals within months of getting even though we cant really afford it, kicking him out and then letting him back in an hour later, taking his drugs to try to control him, yelling at him almost every day as if its going to really get though to him this time. i dont want to live the rest of my life with addicts. i dont want to get married and have children. i dont want to even be in a romantic relationship of any kind with anyone. i know its not really them, its the drug. i know its not him its his behavior. i dont care. i dont care if hes family. all i want is for him to stop leeching off my mother and leave us alone.

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Brother NEW
by: Anonymous

Reading through the comments brings comfort knowing I and my sister are not the only ones going through dealing with an addict sibling my brother. Thank you for sharing your stories. I won't go into my details as your stories are very similar to my own. He is only a year older than me and no matter how much we try to help him he goes back to the streets and drugs. This is the latest of a string of disappointments. He had a good job a car staying with my sister but then he started stealing from her and has lost his job. She's called him after missed calls from him but she hasn't heard back. We are worried sick and pray he is ok. Just want to know he is ok and send him back to rehab. Prayers to my brother and your family members suffering from addiction.

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My sister NEW
by: Anonymous

I felt so alone until I just read all of these posts. I have a 65 yr old sister who lives in NY (I live n TN) who just got evicted from her trailer a month and a half ago for non payment. She is now homeless and living in her car. She is an alcoholic, and has been since she was 18. My brother wanted ME to go up, get her an Apt.,get her SS checks deposited into his account, sell her car, hire a mover, etc. I said NO! She's lost her mind, is also a hoarder, and got evicted when she lived down here behind us, in a lovely Apt., because she had so many bugs in the Apt. NOW, my brother won't speak to me! OMG, I am so upset. He is only trying to enable her and I won't have any part of it. I have now lost my only 2 siblings. Very sad. what this has done to my family.

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younger brother lies
by: Anonymous

My younger brothers (we have the same mom - she is deceased, but a different dad) have both both struggled with felony theft charges, jail time, and addiction. it seems one will do very well and the other will do poorly. The only time I know they are safe and not abusing people is when they are in jail. When they are attempting to go straight and clean, I help with money here and there and hope it is actually going to food, rent, whatever.

Their antics have caused my stepdad to be homeless right now, although he has a job. He and one of my brothers are living with a friend, pitching in with expenses. My other brother is stranded in a rural town with no money. He keeps asking for funds, but I won't send any more. The story for why he needs it changes constantly, and the frantic way he texts me lets me know he's just tweaking out.

I believe he also has a mental illness. He is prone to violent fits of rage and can be very mean. His girlfriend left him because of it. His dad and brother don't want to live with him because of it. I told him I would pay for treatment if he would go, but there is always an excuse. He will thieve his way to having drugs but not into something actually beneficial. He's awaiting a court date for aiding and abetting, and vehicle violation charges from recently wrecking his dad's car. So now his dad has to bum rides to work.

It's a mess and I feel terrible not doing more, but I helped a lot when he was trying to be clean. I can't continue that once he quits trying. He is begging for money, saying it's for food, and trying to lay a guilt trip on me. I know his situation is only going to get worse without help, but I told him I wouldn't send a dime unless he somehow can make his way to one of the rehab centers I told him about. Even then the money will go to the center, not him. I don't know how he can do it, but he has to give some sign of caring. Right now he is just lying to everyone in an effort to hustle money.

I feel terrible about it, just like everyone else. I feel bad about the damage I know he is going to do to the community and other people, but I WILL NOT help him without some effort on his part.

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My brother's keeper update - there is hope!
by: Dianne

I am the Dianne who posted 'my brother's keeper?' two years ago. I didn't have hope that things would get better. I believed my brother had lost his brain, heart and soul to meth. I cut him out of my life and did not see him for over a year. Several months ago, I heard from his 19 year-old son that his dad was clean and totally straight but that they were homeless again and his dad was in hospital. I talked to the nurse and to my brother and I could see that he was telling the truth. He hadn't used meth in over a year. He said he has no craving for meth or for any drug. He had absolutely nothing. He had been working and living in an old hotel, lost his job and got sick, so had nowhere to go. I didn't want to give him money and start all over with him. It was hard to trust him after all those years of lies. I picked him up when he was discharged from the hospital and took him and his son to a hotel and paid for a few nights, gave him a little money. A week later they were living outside. My nephew would go to the library and check fb every few days, so I sent him a message to call and I would come get them. He called that night and I brought them home with me. They'd gone without even a pillow or blanket and never knew when they'd get a next meal. I told them they could stay with us until social services could find them housing - which is difficult in our mostly rural area. Finally, my brother found a temp job he loves, and the company really likes how he works so he is being hired permanently. I made a budget for him, showing him that he'll be debt-free and able to buy his own home in a few months, able to have a savings account and even a vacation to the beach when the company he works for closes for two weeks at Christmas. He is thrilled, has never in his life saved a dollar from one payday to the next and has never had a vacation. He is grateful for the help he's been given. He see's our mother regularly now, which makes her happy. He regrets the life he lived but he is a new man - someone I'd never known before. I've told all this because it is so amazing - if you read my first post about his drug abuse and the awful way he lived, you will see why I consider it a miracle. All this rambling, because I want you to know that no matter how bad your drug-abusing loved one may be, there is hope. God is with you, please try to stay strong. I will say that it took the most strength to say no to my brother and to keep him out of my life until he changed himself - but there also came a time when I had to recognize that he did need help, that he'd gotten himself off drugs with no rehab, no money, no place to live, but that there came a time when I was able to step up and give him a hand to help get himself back into life. I wish you all the best and I pray that your stories will someday be as incredibly happy as ours has turned out to be! With loving prayers, Dianne

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You are not alone!
by: Anonymous

I have read your post,god bless you all for trying! My brother also is an addict. My family wants to wash their hands from him because he steals ,he lies,he continues to use. I can not stop trying to help him because he will die ! I rather him be in prison then to live the way he is now. So please ,don't give up,remember its the drugs talking. Love your family even more,prayers do help but maybe not soon enough! I have chose to put my brother in prison even if I have to set him up and to be arrested . At least he has food ,a bed and he will be dried out! It's the only way I can think of to save him without putting my family in debt! PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP! I will be praying for you all !

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Your not alone
by: Rachel

My brother has been a drug addict for about 6-7 years now. I am only a 14 year old girl and I have had to deal with this pain pretty much my whole life although my divorced parents have tried sheltering me, i understand what is happening and have the whole time. He's been in and out of jail for several years now, about 5 or 6 times i believe. I haven't seen him for 3 years and I haven't talked to him in 2. I miss him so much, but the thing is he doesn't care about me and I need to know that. Its scary because due to drug use he is mentally insane. He is also a homeless and due to past experiences we can't give him money to stay anywhere and won't stay in any rehabs. About once a month he will show up at my house and sleep in our backyard, I still have not seen him. He also got a tatoo of the devil on his back to make my religous mom mad. I'm always worrying about him even though I know he is not even thinking of me. He even forgot my name. Everytime i think of him i cry because i know i cant do anything to change him. I'm glad i was able to vent because i normally cant do this.

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similar situation in my life
by: Joy

My brother has had a lifelong struggle with addiction, starting with alcohol and now with heroin/suboxone. My cousins paid for him to go to rehab, and then he came and lived with me for a year. He was clean that whole year, looked good, healthy, was working.

We thought he would do ok living on his own. He was attending NA meetings and doing well. Within a month of being on his own he started taking percocet. He managed to support himself and keep his job for a year, but then spiraled downward. He still works odd jobs, and self medicates with suboxone.

He is very manipulative and after "lending" him over $10,000 over 2+ years (always w some legit reason...paying me back on occasion to fool me), I finally had to cut him off completely. He still sends me guilt inducing messages, but I have come to realize that my help is not what he needs. In addition to his addiction, he has a dual diagnosis of manic depression, and he is highly intelligent. He thinks he is smart enough to manage his own addiction.

Thanks for listening...feels good to not be alone :)

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MY BROTHER
by: BOB Z.

after seven weeks of hell wither my drunk;drug adick brother;I GIVE UP!he is sucking the life out of us.he wont try to help himself at all.this has been going on for years.everybody trys to help him.i am raising two kids by myself and he is destroying our home.i am worried the kids mom will start problems if he dosent leave.so tomorrow i am taking him as far away as possible give him some money and telling him to never comeback.i feel like crap but think its the best thing to do.some people cant be helped.

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My homeless, drug addicted brother that does not want help!
by: Debbie

Thank you for this site! I have cried as I read these stories - I feel hopeless when it comes to my brother. He is 40 and he is a drug addict his drug of choice is Meth. He has been using pills, alchohol, speed and meth since he was 16. He has lived with me, stole from me and I have sent him to prison for forgery. He has a record mostly drug charges. My family have handed him money, vehicles, paid his bills, bought him food. I have watched him suck the life out of my family while they try to understand his addiction and why he has all the crazy stories and bad luck! He is now homeless and walking the streets approx 20 minutes away from my home. My grandparents and father have passed so he has been hitting up mu Mom for a few years now and as much as I tell her not to "help" him she does. It's her son so I get it but how do I get her to realize its not helping him? He just recently started on me and I have held my ground. I gave him numbers, names and locations of shelters that will help him help himself. It had been hell and I do not wish this on anyone! Any advice is greatly appreciated. I pray that he will get the help he needs and that your family members so also!

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Homeless Son
by: Anonymous

My beautiful 23 year old son was doing so well. This summer (July 2012) he went into rehab for heroine addiction. His brother went to a diff. facility and is now doing really well. But the first son 2 weeks ago left his sober living and is now sleeping in a tree house. He cannot live with his dad and I. We are done with his addiction. I worry so much. God Bless them all!

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Feeling Lost
by: TheUsed

My brother (24) and I (27)grew up in a foster home, I was 12 and he was 9. The family we did end up with we stayed with until we graduated and even continued to stay after we were able to leave, and they have always been there for us, even to this day. My mother was a violent, drug and alcohol addicted mom who hurt us both physically and mentally very badly. My brother did really well living with our foster parents but when he turned 18 he went freedom crazy or something. Sadly he reminds me of my mother with out the phys abuse. He keeps getting arrested, can't get or keep a job and now has been caught scamming workmen's comp and has a warrant because of it. He refuses to get actual help from us, even stopped asking for a place to live and money. I think he will be in prison soon or dead. I know there is not much help even though I want to help him and I know he needs to help himself, but it feels like I should be doing more even though I have a family to think of now and I cannot let him live with me or borrow from me or steal. I wish the laws were better for families like us, where we could force them to get help, bc there are so many of us out there in this situation. I just miss my little brother, we used to be so close, we were all we had, and now he has replaced our bond with drugs, alcohol, fines and jail. I love him so much. I just want him to see that he has the potential to be better and I want him around my kids instead of having him miss out on everything. He has totally blocked me and everyone else out of his life, of course except for his drug buddies. He won't even show up anywhere he knows I'm going. I think he might feel ashamed. I feel powerless, like I'm just standing aside while he ruins himself. Love obviously isn't strong enough in this case, sorry. Thanks for letting me talk and if WI has anything to offer that would be great.

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Rehab Option
by: Anonymous

I just want to mentioned I recently met someone with a heroine addiction who successfully completed a free 6 month program at the Salvation Army. He said it was a great program (in Phoenix AZ)and it's changed his life. Private rehabs and even those that take insurance are very expensive.

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I feel bad:(
by: Anonymous

I'm so glad I found this site. I knew I wasn't alone in this but it's good to know someone that understands the pain of drug addiction. My brother-in-law is a drug addict for many years. My husband has received calls at all hous of the night and day from his parents and brother for help. He goes and does whatever his parents say just for them to turn around and undo whatever my husband did. I am just sick of the stress this has caused us and the time lost we will never get back. I want help for his brother but he doesn't want to help himself. His parents keep enableing him to live this way & then when something happens my husband gets a call to help with his brother and clean up the mess. I just don't understand why my husband & his parents can't see that until he is ready to get clean and stay clean nothing they do will help. I feel bad for the way I feel about this but it's so frustrating to see the heartache he has caused my husband and his parents and the time wasted trying to help him when he doesn't want to be better. Please help!!! Id hate to make my husband choose between his brother and parents and his wife and kids but I can't handle the stress and anxiety. I worry that one day he will rob us for drug money or worse hurt one of us because he's high. He doesn't think hes capable of doing such a thing but I think anything is possible with a drug addict!!

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You're Not Alone
by: Anonymous

I truly feel your pain. I've been holding back tears as I read your post and the rest of the comments. I always feel so alone in this. My brother is 28 and is horribly addicted to alcohol. He was hospitalized for a month and diagnosed with cirrhosis at 26. Yep, only 26. He has no friends, nothing. He just drinks all day long. He's a good person, but this addiction has the best of him. I don't think he has much time left. In fact, today he was terribly jaundiced and throwing up. My parents enable him, not really out of choice anymore. I feel they've become hopeless. There's a lot more to this story, but I really just wanted to say that you're not alone. This is such a difficult thing to deal with. I wish I could help, but truth is there's not much we can do anymore. Our family members and loved ones need to find there own motivation for help. I heard a quote recently I'm trying to live by. "We can't save people, we can only love them." It's in my hopes that this love and support will be enough.

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My chronically addicted son
by: Anonymous

I came onto this site quite by accident searching for a rehab that could help my now homeless son who is 29 years old. He is sucking the life out of his grandparents myself and my husband and his sister.My husband is a recovering alcoholic for the past 12 years, and his sister who is 27, has been successful in her recovery the last 5 years.His grandparents are forever rescuing him and are losing their life savings between legal issues, rehabs,detox centers,making car payments for him and giving him money for gas and coffee and cigarettes.He seems to have a problem and fear of growing up which I believe is contributing to his ongoing addictions and relapses. He has a felony record making finding work a problem. He says he wants help but has been thrown out of detox and rehab centers because he keeps trying to do things his way and just won't do what they ask. Many of his friends and some family members have gotten him into centers only to be embarassed when he was thrown out. I prepare myself everyday for that phone call that will tell me he is in jail again or dead. For those of you that are going thru a similar situation the best that you can do for yourself is to get to Al-Anon or Coda meetings or both. It is helping me. I am beginning to realize I can only help myself and to be there for support for him if he needs it. It is truly heartbreaking.My knees are almost flat from all the praying that I do. That’s about all I can do for him.

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February 2012
by: Anonymous

It is helpful to know I am not alone, however, I do not wish pain on anyone else....loving an addict is so challenging! The story above is about my brother and it has been awhile since I have written about him.

Update...he has been in jail for 6 months now...& finally I have hope for him again. It has taken this long for him to be able to start thinking clearly again....he gets better everyday. I went to see him Christmas day & while there, I suggested he go into rehab directly after leaving jail. He was against the idea at first but I told him to think a/b it. Well...a week later he wrote me and said he was ready for rehab...mind you, this is the first time in his entire life he has agreed to rehab!

I have yet to figure where he can go or how I will pay for the rehab, but I have hope finally. I have never been a religious person per say but recently I have been taking the time ti pray....and amazingly my prays have been noticed.

After I began to pray, I also began to change the way I was interacting w/ my brother. Instead of writing him & reminding him of all the horrible things he had done, I began to only write positive messages & basically reminded him that I care. He really took hold of the positiveness I was offering. I think it was something he truly needed/s. Maybe it was with the help of God, but I began to realize that my brothers whole life is filled w/ negativity & that I didn't want to continue to contribute to that.

I don't know where my brothers life is headed, however, I now know it is not up to me to change him and I hope that others suffering realize it is not their responsibility to change their loved one.

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Going through the Same Thing
by: Anonymous

It's February 2012 and I am going through the same problem with my brother. He's 26 and is on the streets. I'm a psychology major and know that this is his choice but I just don't understand how he can live like this. We're from an upper-middle class family and he like has no shame.

I've printed up county paid rehab facilities and detox centers. Nothing is making him get straight. His wife left him, with their three kids, and he lost his job.

There's places, like our church and the local mission who won't even help him anymore. What do we do?

I'm afraid I'll get a phone call stating that he's dead! I'm afraid of that!

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by: Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,
So sorry to hear your story and I am sorry about your father. It is very scary to see what stress can do to the body. My advice to you would be to have your mother read the comments on here & go to alanon meetings. She needs to kick your brothers out b/c it would be in the best interest of everyone, even them. I know she has probably thought a/b this & maybe she feels incapable but it needs to be done. I recommend she reads the books Tweak & Beautiful Boy. Tweak is told from the perspective of an addict & Beautiful Boy is the same story told from the perspective of his father. They are both very insightful.

Since I wrote a/b my angry brother here, he has since been arrested & is serving a year for aggravated menacing & inducing panic. Long story short, he was high on bath salts & paranoid; he stole a gun & ran into someones house claiming people were after him. I am glad that he was arrested b/c he was injecting the salts and staying up for 20 plus days. The arrest most definitely saved his life.

I am glad that he is safe for now but I don't think he is anywhere near being ready to change. He admits bath salts have messed up his life AGAIN but doesn't have any remorse about all the horrible things he has done. He is full of anger. Negative energy just seethes from him.

I hope he is eventually able to view the severity of the situation!

Best of luck to all family members of addicts!!!

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In agony
by: Anonymous

I am so pained to hear all of your stories, pained because I know exactly what you are all going through. I have been dealing with not one, but two drug addict brothers for the past 7 years ( ice and heroin). As a result on the strain that these addictions had on our family, my father was diagnosed with parkinsons disease, (which is a stress related illness) which has now developed into dimentia. My mother is y fathers carer and the two boys love at home and put them through he'll which consists of violent abuse, emotional abuse, steeling and eratic behavior. I chose to cut them out of my life years ago but it doesn't mean that I have stopped suffering as I have to deal with the pain they are putting my parents through. My mother is scared for her life, she is scared of what these two grown men are capable of. The police are not foreigners to this particular household. All I know is that the end is not near yet I am expecting a brutal ending.. It is true what they say, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink... I have over the past decade tried to help those boys, cried myself to sleep and dedicated myself to helping them.. But two years ago, I woke up one morning and said enough. All they have left are my parents and they are so sick that they don't have much time left. To all you out there experiencing this, you have to help yourselves. In an idealistic world you hope they change, but it is most likely they won't. It is so sad that we have to go through this, but we have to be strong. The rain will subside one day. I hope your pain goes away those of you sufferring.. I believe if I can still be sitting here writing this after what I have gone through, knowing that the worst hasn't even erupted, then so can you... Love to all and god bless you and keep you safe.

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RE:Thank you Everyone!
by: Katie

Thank you everyone for the support. It does help knowing there are others dealing with the same situation as myself. I am very slowly learning that I have to start focusing on myself & let my brother live his life the way he chooses. I read a comment by an addict in remission & he said that an addict will not get sober until it is easier for them to get clean rather than for them to stay high. I thought this comment made a lot of sense and it also made me feel better a/b no longer helping my brother with anything. He also said that we should definately keep our distance from the addict in our lives while also continue to love them so that they know we will be there for them if they decide to change their ways. Thanks for the prays & support.

By the way...did anyone look up those bath salts. It is a horrible, horrible drug!

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My brother's keeper?
by: Dianne

Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your mother. I am sorry, too, that you have to cope with the addictions and behavior of your brother when you really need his support. My brother is 47 and addicted to meth. From age 12 he was a heavy pot smoker and failed to mature, accept responsibility for his own life, and grow up. With all his bad choices and failures I was still shocked 2 years ago to learn that he was a meth user/maker/addict. He has never supported himself, and for most of his life he has gotten money from my sister and me, and taken advantage of our mother, taking all of her retirement income and leaving my sister and me to support her. Recently, due to our elderly mother's failing health and dementia, my husband and I brought her to live with us - and my sister and I refuse to give our addict brother my mother's social security checks any longer. He has come to my home twice this month demanding money and threatening me physically when I would not give it to him. I don't know what he is capable of but I have seen him behave more aggressively since he started using meth and I am not sure he won't kill me. I am afraid in my own home, something I never thought could happen. One thing I have realized is that we should have cut him out of our lives and cut off the money we all gave him for years, long ago, and this would have been settled before he became a violent meth addict. I don't think there are any easy answers - or answers at all, really. I know that I cannot help him if he won't help himself, and he has never done anything to help himself. I try to be supportive of his 17 year-old son, both emotionally and financially, but I worry constantly about him. He does not live with my brother, but with his alcoholic mother, who he says is sober for the time being. He asked to live with me until he graduates next spring, if his mother starts drinking and using drugs again - which is her pattern. The hell my brother has put us all through, because of the choices he has made, seems never ending. I pray for him, and have told him that I love him and will keep praying but that I will never give him another dollar of my money or our mother's. I don't know if that will force him to change, but somehow I doubt it. I feel sick and guilty, knowing he doesn't have a home and food or money - but he doesn't want me to feed him a meal, he wants money or nothing and he doesn't want to hear anyone say he needs to stop using drugs and take care of himself. He tells me he hates me and I believe him. So many of us are trapped in this kind of situation with our brothers and sisters. God be with all of us, God help our family members to change their lives. I pray for you and for your brother, too. I don't know whether knowing that there are others who have struggles similar to yours helps any, but I hope you can feel like someone understands.

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I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I know first hand how hard it is too deal with an addicted family member. Addiction affects the whole family. My daughter is a heroin addict and there I times that I sometimes feel that maybe she is better off "moving on" from this earth because then her pain and suffering will be gone. It hurts me to even think that way. I wish I could help. I am in a similar boat and I don't know what to do either. All I know is that I don't won't to sink with this ship but my heart aches so. All I can suggest is to keep praying and in the meantime do whatever you can to heal yourself and get yourself help for your depression or join groups (like Al-anon) where you can talk with folks dealing with similar situations. I am trying to exercise more so that I can work through my depresssion. I agree, these drug addicted diseases are the worst. I pray for you and your brother and I am sorry for the loss of your mother. It must be very hard on you.

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Brother
by: Anonymous

I can feel your pain, it is so devastating to witness a family suffer from addiction, but like you said the addict has to want the help - but in the mean time continue to pray for him.

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