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Letting Go Of My "Best Friend" (Alcohol) Long Story ... 3 Days Sober

by Dana

I am 45 years old and three days sober. Growing up, my Grandparents would come over with a bottle of bourbon just to hang out on a Saturday. At home they got up at 10am, had some orange juice for breakfast and then had a "before lunch drink" at 11am. My other grandmother walked into walls. We thought it was funny. She ran away with one of the drunks in town and we never saw her again.


My Dad and his friends would drink beer while they worked around our farm. We would take the empties and fill them with water and try to be cool like them. When I was 14 I started dating a 16 year old and had my first beer. That was 31 years ago.

I drank socially through high school and college and started dating my future husband when I was 22. His parents were very wealthy and they drank wine. Good wine. His Dad way more than his Mom, but it was so elegant and classy. Just like I wanted to be. So I started drinking wine.

For the next 18 years we raised our two daughters and drank almost everyday. Me a few glasses of wine, he a few glasses of vodka. The last 6 years of that 18 he started drinking after I went to bed and then coming in to "wake" me around 3am. (That led to him calling me names, passing out and then forgetting everything the next day) I continued to drink wine, but compared to my husband's then bottle of vodka a night, it didn't seem like that much.

In 2005 he got so drunk that he sat up in his sleep and punched me in the face. He had no memory of it the next day. I asked for a divorce.

In the last 6 years he has been in rehab 6 times and is now in an inpatient/voluntary incarceration type facility. He has almost died 3 times from the dt's. He has lost everything. I have kept custody of our kids and am now remarried to an amazing man (who rarely even finishes one drink) and even have a beautiful granddaughter. From the outside I have the perfect life. But one thing has remained. The wine.

I am three days sober now. If you asked my husband, my friends or even my kids they would tell you that I don't have a drinking problem. I know differently. I am a fully functioning alcoholic. I never get falling down drunk. I never slur or embarrass anyone. But I forget little things that were said the night before, I've gained weight and I feel foggy and dazed all day. I'm done.

Here is my new View of Alcohol, No longer my "best friend." Good Luck to everyone

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its time
by: Anonymous

Horrible things happen when I drink . and everytime I say its the l last time.. It happens again a couple days later.. Im loosing out on the better part of my relationship with my friends girlfriend and family.. its to the point were I dont even want to repeat "that was my last time" knowing I really fucked up again. Because its so embarrassing.. I hate what drinking is doing to me and what it might.do in the future.. Im done fuck it. Ive realized if I cant just drink alittle like normal people then theres no need for me to drink at all.. I dont want to wait and see the worst that could happen.. Two days sober. My souls hurt from what I did the last time.i got drunk.. Everyones pissed at me.. But I know that through God there is faith and he wants me to do good. I wish yall the best.of luck. please do the right thing. Tears aren't worth a buzz.

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Your support helps so much!
by: Dana

Thanks for your encouraging words! This forum helps because my family only knows that I'm not drinking and I'm in a really good mood. But they don't know what it took for me to do this. I feel strong. I'm on day 5 (stopped on Tuesday). I've made it through a birthday party, a business networking mixer (with free wine) and today I will not drink at a bbq with family and friends. The other side is awesome! I hope others will read the posts and feel brave enough to step over. Your sleep will be deep, your weight will stabilize, your skin will glow, your eyes will brighten and the fog will lift.

Keep it up!

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Fantastic
by: C-P

Well done Dana, it's fantastic that you've come to the realisation that you actually don't need alcohol in your life. She promises the world when you 'meet her' - and then inevitably chews you up and spits you out, given time ... so thanks too for sharing your relationship with alcohol story. There will be many ups and downs on your journey so it's a matter of taking it day by day, step by step. And no matter how terrible a day you've had - and I promise you, you will have them - as long as you remain sober you'll be able to call the day a success. Remember the worst day sober is still a million times better than the best day drunk. Try and find life-affirming habits to replace the destructive one's that surrounded your drinking - whether it be exercise, yoga, meditation, a new hobby, taking a class, whatever. Replacing the void that alcohol leaves makes the journey so much more enriching, and easier ultimately. So thanks again for sharing and best of luck on your journey.

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