I Fell in Love With a Drug Addict ... and am now Heartbroken

by Irma
(Ypsilanti, MI)

Three years ago I fell in love with a drug addict and I treated him like he was a king, but I never felt that he had the same love for me.

I remember only 2 months in the whole time, that he was very nice, other than that he was demanding, selfish and stubborn.

He then decided that he doesn't want to be with me any more. But what worries me, is that I still love him and I want to return .... it's been three months since we broke up and I feel misarable everyday. I'm thinking that I have a more severe problem than him.

Thank you for letting me write.

Answer

Hi Irma

As hard as it seems, think of it for the best that you are no longer with him. You say you were together for three years, but felt that for only two months during that WHOLE period he was nice to you and treated you well. Why would you want to be with a man like that?

But despite knowing that someone is bad for us and that being in a relationship with an addict probably isn't healthy, it's almost impossible to control our feelings ... and so end up falling in love with that person anyway. That's okay. Don't beat yourself up about that.

The main thing is to remember that time heals a broken heart. As bad as you feel now, know that in time you will begin to feel better and will no doubt meet someone else again. But the main thing is that you learn from this experience, and make sure that the next time you fall in love, it's with someone who treats you well and respects you for who you are.

So be gentle with yourself and give yourself the opportunity to heal. Find things you enjoy doing and focus on yourself for now and soon enough you'll feel much happier and at peace again.

God Bless