Husbands Addiction to Pot (Marijuana)
I have been married for 5 years now and we have 2 beautiful amazing children age 7 and 1. My husband has smoked pot (marijuana) for over 20 years and I feel that it will drive us apart eventually.
I don't know what to do and I am so lonely, his personality is zero unless he has had a joint. We never have sex, because he likes to stay up later than me so he can have one last joint before bed (I usually moan you see).
I am only 33 and want to enjoy life, we never do anything, we have money troubles but this should not stop us from being happy at least. I don't know who to speak to - my mum and dad don't know he smokes.
Our son is very clever and is starting to ask questions - I don't want to lie to him because we are very open and I feel he should know the truth. His relationship with his father is suffering as my husband will become agitated with him, I blame pot for this.
He also cannot hold a conversation (when not had a joint) because its like he is anxious and edgy all of the time. This results is me protecting my children and reacting when I feel he could deal with things better (not shout and be civil and our son will be civil in return).
I seem to be able to communicate with our son and we are very close, so I feel this is a problem on his behalf, but I would like someone to give me some information on the symptoms and general experience of full time pot smoking. Thank you, please I am so worried, for our children especially, and I would appreciate any help.
Marijuana addiction is a huge problem and largely under-rated because many people believe marijuana to be harmless - when in fact it can cause serious problems when abused to the extent your husband does.
Here's an article that explains pot and the signs of pot use
in more depth, as well as steps you as a loved one can take when dealing with your husband. It's an excellent guide and reference point for a loved one of a pot addict.
Clearly it's causing a huge issue in your marriage and one way or another you need to find a resolution. Whether your husband will agree to making changes you can't control, but you can make a decision to do what's best for you and your children in the long run. Good Luck and Take Care.