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Five Years Sober – How I’ve Done It

I'd just like to share a few ideas as to how I managed to recently reach the five year mark of my new life in sobriety. This is not intended to brag about what I’ve done, but to simply share some of the things that have helped me ... and if someone else at least gets one useful idea from what I've shared, it will mean this post has been worth it.

The thing that has driven me to keep going until this point has been hope ... the hope of a better life ... the hope of something more than the drunken chaos my life had become (but that’s an entirely different story altogether).

That hope has served as my motivator. And as that hope began to burn more brightly, I started to hope that one day I would no longer be repulsed by the person staring back at me in the mirror ... that I’d be able to have some sort of relationship with my children ... that I’d someday be able to experience a semblance of happiness. That hope has driven me to reach the point I am today, and without it I have no doubt I’d be dead.

I've also invested a huge amount of time and effort in developing a relationship with myself. I was tired of hating the person I was (probably the biggest trigger to my life of alcoholism I think because it helped me forget and numb that feeling). So I’ve had to learn to be okay with who I am ... flaws and all. It’s taken me my 47 years to really understand and appreciate that flaws and imperfections are what make us human and truly beautiful. I've done lots of reading (there are some great books out there), reflection, meditation and prayer to help me with this. (I tried exercise, but it’s not really my thing:-)

I’ve also had to learn to forgive ... firstly myself ... and then others. Living with anger, hatred and guilt I’ve realised are nothing more than poison. It hasn’t been easy for me, but I’ve come to learn that forgiveness is also an act of love, and so the more I learn to forgive, the more love I let into my life.



Developing new hobbies and routines have given my life purpose and have been instrumental in keeping me not only sober, but sane as well:-) Long walks in the countryside ... Sunday morning visits to my favourite coffee shop where I enjoy reading the newspaper and watching the world go by ... regular trips to the cinema ... Chinese takeaway and DVD evenings with my closest friends ... weekly massages ... are just some of the activities I’ve developed to keep my life interesting (to me at least anyway) and that help keep me out of negative head space.

Surrounding myself with good people is something I’ve also been very conscious of doing, because I realised (through lots of experience) how spending time with the wrong kind of people is looking for trouble. So now I’m very selective of who I spend my time with and have a few very good friends who I trust and respect totally ... rather than a whole bunch of hangers on who do nothing but drain me of my energy and who thrive in negativity and misery (funny how they’re the ones that still spend most of their time down the pub).

None of this is earth-shattering stuff, but if anyone had asked me five years ago if I’d be able to get where I am today, I’d have said they’re crazy. All I've really done is take it one day at a time and realised it's the simple things that really that make all the difference. So even if you remember only one thing about what I've written, just remember KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid), LOL

Thanks for letting me share,

God Bless.

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Jul 15, 2011
lonley
by: Anonymous

I am sober for over 5 years now,single for 12 years..tierd of not having a capatible loving person in my life or at the least good trusting sober friends.

Jul 15, 2011
Great Advice!
by: Anonymous

It is true that you find pleasure in simple things when you are sober. Without the fog everything has more clarity and instead of "getting through" the mundane day to be able to get to the night when you can drink again, you stop and enjoy the life going on around you.

Thanks for the inspiration!

Mar 10, 2011
5 years sober
by: Anonymous

I just realize its been 5 years..I went through a mid life crisis 8 years ago..I was 10 years sober at the time..little by little it sucked me in and I fell into all kinds of crap..one night I got ready to go out..didnt have a plan but GOD did took a couple of hours getting slicked up..part of my addiction..I had my hand on the door and the next thing I know I was at my bedside on my knees giving my life back to JESUS...hum haven had a desire to go out oo drink since...GOD stoped me bcause he has aplan and I wouldnt of made it home that night..it wasnt my time to go so the holy spirit stoped me..I am thankful Im not out doing all kinds of stupid things drinking..so blessed.....lets remember we have so many things to be thankful for and never know when our time is up in this life...stay sober.....its better....

Aug 26, 2009
WOW
by: Anonymous

Thank's for sharing that. These last 2 years I have been an alcoholic and I have stopped for the very same reasons, hope and wanting to better myself and love myself. As well as to try to be a more likeable, possitive person.
Thanks again :-)

Aug 20, 2009
Great Ideas
by: C-P

Congratulations and thanks for sharing what you've done to come this far. Like you say, it's all about keeping it simple and sticking to the basics. Recovering from alcoholism and addiction is about consistently doing the things you need to, to ensure your sobriety, as you so wonderfully explained. Keep going and all the best for the next 5 years.

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