Ex-Wife Addicted to Meth and Heroin

by Gavin
(San Antonio)

My ex-wife has finally admitted she is addicted to Meth and Heroin. I have 100% custody of our son (out of state). She has lost custody of her other 2 children. She is working on entering rehab around 1 October. This is more of a mandated thing rather than her admitting she has an actual problem.

She has requested that she see our son before entering rehab so she can fully tell him all of the problems (there are far more than drugs). My question is this:

Is this a good idea for me to let her do this? I have the authority to go either way. I feel like it is a good idea for both of them to get some closure and maybe help her in rehab. Any comments/suggestions would be great. Thanks.

Alcoholism-and-Drug-Addiction-Help.com Answer

Hi Gavin

If you think its a good idea, then by all means, trust your instincts and go with it. If your wife is sincere and genuinely wants to start making amends by telling your son about what she's done/been through, surely that can only be a good thing.

The fact that your wife is going to rehab is a good place to start, even if it has been mandated. Hopefully once there though she'll come to realise the full extent of her problem/addiction, and make the decision its time to make changes and turn over a new leaf.

Because while rehab is a great place to receive professional care and treatment, its only a stepping stone to a life of long-term sobriety. Staying clean takes work, effort, dedication and commitment. It doesn't just happen and most people only manage it by working some kind of recovery program.

So hopefully your wife is sincere in at least wanting to start making amends with your son, and if you think their talking before she goes to rehab will help both of them, then why not?

Thanks for asking, take care.

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