Drug Addicted High Functioning Husband - Should I Leave?

by Suzie
(CT)

Ours is a hard-working family that has been devastated financially by my husband's addition. Have managed to put 3 really wonderful kids through college working many jobs. My husband is also a hard worker - but he spends thousands upon thousands on drugs and has put us in extreme financial situations at least 3 times.

Answer

Hi Suzie

Your husband's addiction rules his life - and until he admits to his addiction, and then gets the necessary help to overcome it, unfortunately nothing much is going to change.

Your husband has to want to change for himself, and typically there isn't much you can say or do that will facilitate that. That's why addicts are typically only open and ready to receiving help when they've reached their rock bottom.

Leaving him might help him reach that bottom faster, but there are no guarantees. But whether or not that is the right thing for you and your relationship only you can decide. How are you going to find happiness and peace of mind?

You may be powerless over your husband's choices - but you have total power over the direction you decide to take your life in. Time to take stock and decide what you want from your life, irrespective of what your husband does since you can't control that.

God Bless and Good Luck