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Addiction Is Nothing More Than A Choice For People Who Are Weak




I wanna give my view on these clever sounding theories the so called ‘experts’ have about addiction like the idea that it’s a disease and people are powerless to control it blah, blah, blah. It’s total bullshit! My brother is a drug addict and that is a life he has chosen for himself - nothing more, nothing less - despite everything we’ve tried to do to help him.

We’ve bent over backwards to make sure he gets the best treatment (he’s been through rehab 3 times), bailed him out of jail a bunch of times, stood by him and supported him despite all the shit he’s caused (stealing, lying) ... and that’s not even the half of it.

My brother is a selfish, self-centred, ungrateful, dishonest and lying bastard. He thinks of no one else but himself. He doesn’t care who he hurts or how much damage he’s done, he just carries on regardless. He’s practically destroyed our mom, but that doesn’t seem to bother him.

The experts at these clinics tell us that he has a disease and he’s powerless to control it ... with all the rest of their clever sounding theories. It’s all crap! This is the life he has chosen for himself because he can’t be bothered making the effort to make something of himself. He’s always been lazy and this is just the easy way out for him.

I honestly don’t see how these expensive rehabs and so called experts make much of a difference. Look at how low their success rates are. Those people that beat addiction do so because they realise what they’re doing to themselves is ridiculous and so they sort themselves out. I’m sure they could do that without all these clever people passing on their clever sounding theories.

Bottom line is people get addicted because they’re weak and they don’t have the backbone to fight through tough times. My brother is just another one. I’ve stopped caring now one way or another. It’s time to cut him loose. It’s a life he’s chosen and that’s just the way it is.








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Addiction Is Nothing More Than A Choice For People Who Are Weak

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pray
by: Anonymous

Pray

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I bet he never imagined he would one day be this way.
by: Anonymous

addiction starts long before the drug or alcohol is even consumed. Unfortunately it effects everyone it touches including you. Addiction embraces all those character defects you mentioned. You and your mother can get relief from groups like alanon and narcanon. As long as there is life there is hope. The question is, if you really want him to get help, will you be there for him when he needs you the most?

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idiot
by: Anonymous

Your brother deserves much better than you. Maybe if you had cancer and eveone turned their back on you , then you would understand. Jeff

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Deep Down.
by: Anonymous

Interesting points by the original poster. I had two addicts in my family and nothing the rest of the family did was enough. I think deep down, addicts don't feel inferior-they feel superior; that is why they never appreciate anything.

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I agree and I am so sad.
by: Anonymous

I have to agree. I have a 19 year old son who is addicted to drugs. He was not raised this way, I always made sure I set a good example for him, brought him up with everything he needs to make the rite decisions, I educated him well, kept communication very open, live in a good place, etc. He has chosen this horrible way of life. I have tried to help him over and over and over again. We have done the re-hab, the meetings, the suboxone, the counseling, the hand holding,you namne it, I've done it. Nothing works. I took him to weekly counseling at 14 when I found out he was smoking pot ( I didnt' want it to ever go further so I thought I would nip this in the bud rite away), well 4 years later, he was doing Oxy. He still is, he lies, steals, lazy, highschool drop out etc. It is a choice and unless they choose not to do it, there is nothing anyone can do to change it. I am so sad and so frustrated.

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Your anger helps no one
by: Anonymous

Your anger and the claims you make help no one. If these people didn't know what they were talking about then no one would have any chance of sobriety. The unfortunate reality of addiction is that those who recover are the one's that ultimately want to and therefore put in the necessary effort. Blaming those trying to help is just silly. Sorry about your brother, but your attitude now just does more harm than good.

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Very Sad
by: C-P

I can totally understand your hurt and frustration. That is unfortunately what addiction can do to people - turn them into all the things you describe. I'm sure your 'real' brother is still down there somewhere, but unfortunately his 'addict self' has taken over. It's not a weakness - just think of it as a condition (if you don't want to think of it as a disease). The reality with addiction is that some go onto recover and others don't. Why some do and others don't no one can tell or predict. Don't lose hope that your brother could still be one of those that go onto recover. Yes it may be a good thing to use a tough love approach now, but despite everything your brother has done, he has the potential to change and overcome this. I really hope he does.

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Sorry about your brother
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I'm sorry to hear about your brother and I can understand why you're so angry and frustrated. I don't want to go into the whole disease debate now but I do want to comment about your idea that addiction is simply a weakness. You don't say what substance your brother is addicted to, but many are physically addictive so you can't actually function without them, which sounds like is the case with your brother. And then there's the psychological dependence side of it. That's why you can't control it no matter how hard you try. The one thing your brother is in control of however is taking the steps necessary and doing the work he needs to to work at his recovery, which sounds like he isn't doing. Until he's prepared to do that, then unfortunately nothing will change. So I can understand why you want to cut him off now, sounds like it may be the right thing to do. Maybe it will help you brother come around and start turning his life around. I hope so.

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